Wednesday, March 11, 2009

the gift

My child has a gift.

It's a beautiful thing.

He can weave a story, compose a tale and create elaborate characters in his mind. He can visualize detailed images and then give them shape on the paper in front of him. He longs to write a chronicle, act out a play or sing in a musical.

But it's sometimes hard to see what's inside a gift. Imagine mismatched paper glued tightly around a cardboard box. Think of masking tape torn and twisted, holding it all together.

The messy handwriting. The misspelled words. The trouble with reading. They sometimes hide what's inside.

We ask why is it more difficult for him to learn to ride his bike, to venture down the waterslide, to catch a ball? Why does he always spill the milk, drop crumbs on the floor, bump into things? Why is it so hard for him to figure out how to open a container or use the remote control?

There are names and labels. Words and terms that might offer an explanation. Do any of them fit? They don't sound pretty.

They can't begin to describe him. They can't begin to describe a kid with so much determination, even when he has to work so hard. So much compassion for the feelings of those around him. So much sensitivity for the needs of others. Such a desire to do what is right. To understand spiritual things.

So much creativity and joy.

My child has a gift.

It's a beautiful thing.

7 comments:

  1. You'll have to show this post to him someday! :) Sounds like he is a neat kid!

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  2. Oh that we could all be so blessed to use our gifts in the world and not have to fit a certain mold. He's lucky to have you.

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  3. Ditto what Jenny said! And Amy! And Bridget!

    :) Lynn

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  4. Thanks for you nice comments, everyone.

    As Jenny said, if only we could live in a world without boxes... It's so hard to see your child going through a challenge and to know how to be most helpful as a parent.

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  5. So beautifully said Emily. Here I am hours away from leaving for Denver completely engrossed in your blog. This one touched my heart so much I just had to respond. Thank you for taking the time to capture your thoughts and especially for sharing them with others. Love it!

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  6. So try - I love the comment of wishing your child could live in a world without boxes. My youngest is currently being tested for ADD. I HATE it - the thought of her being labeled. She is so sweet, thoughtful, smart - just unable to function in the "school mold." Breaks my heart as a mom. I'll be praying for your family as you seek the best for your kids. Also praying for your new addition - I just discovered your blog and as a fellow 40-something mom - I can empathize!

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